Wedding days should be (one of the many) magical days in the love story of our life with the special someone who captures our hearts.
But that does not mean it comes in a pretty, wrapped up present box already prepared for you.
Nope, it takes a lot of hard work and stress to make that special day "perfect", so how the hell are we supposed to navigate the complex world of wedding planning without making a few mistakes?
For starters, we can all put a big 'WARNING' sign across this list of common mistakes brides and grooms make and rules on how to avoid them, to get us on our way to wedding haven.
1. Your Savings Account Should Not Go From Hero To Zero.
Unfortunately our bank accounts don’t really come to the rescue the way a genie will, so when we spend a helluva lot of$$$$ on our special days they are not going to refill like a never-ending packet of Tim Tams.
Many newbie brides and grooms-to-be will fork out their heart and soul to pay for the wedding of their dreams, when it’s not going to be the best idea in the long run.
Setting a very clear and realistic budget for yourselves is sure fire way to avoid regret (unless you’re marrying someone you really don’t want to…). You can also try to negotiate with vendors and other services to get the best price possible.
Of course, some of you may be million/billion/gazillionaires, so we’re just going to put it out there and ask if you could give us a non-repayable loan for our wedding?
2. Snap Decisions Are Not Good Decisions
We all know the regret experienced when we make a rash fashion purchase and slap ourselves the next day for it… The same concept applies here.
Think out your options and don’t immediately say yes to that over-the-top dinner dish because it sounds fancy.
3. Get Off The 'Net, Gosh Darnit!
The internet has proved to be one of the biggest time wasters and takers innovations ever in the modern world we live in and we all know we should cut back on our net addiction.
This is also true in terms of your wedding. Why? Because if you spend too much time on the darn net you are going to implode from the endless amounts of information and may possibly confuse yourself even more.
Allocate specific amounts of time to it (not whole days), actually go to the venues and stores you are interested in, and work together to pick the treasure out from the trash.
4. Facebook & Instagram Don't Need Play By Play Updates
We all have that one friend who rips the fun out of a moment by documenting everything that’s going on, on social media. Don’t be that friend, you will greatly dislike yourself when you look back and realize you were not in the moment, at all.
Many weddings are introducing ‘no tech’ rules, meaning everyone has to be completely in the moment and aren’t sitting there playing Candy Crush like the anti-social people they are.
5. That Dreamy Wedding Planner Ain't A Brilliant Idea
We’ve all seen a dozen or more movies where a wedding planner comes to the rescue of couples and blesses them with an unforgettable wedding as if she/he is the Fairy Godmother herself.
Heads up – you are more than capable of using your creative noggins and combined love for each other to create the perfect day.
Who knows the two of you better than, well, the two of you? No one.
6. Macklemore Should Be Your Go-To #WeddingInspo. Legit.
Not literally, of course. But remember his hit song ‘Thrift Shop’? it should be the tune you sing to yourself as you do your shopping for all things wedding-related.
There’s always a better deal.
7. Old Skool Ain't Always Cool
We don’t live in the 1800’s, anymore, where fathers literally handed over ownership of their daughters to husbands.
We live in modern times and you want your wedding day to feel true to you – so if you don’t like something deemed ‘traditional’, ditch it like this little guy!
8. You've Obvs Forgotten Weddings Are Supposed To Be Fun
In the chaos of planning a wedding, and even of the day itself, many couples can get caught up in the running of events which is a buzz kill when it comes to the FUN you’re supposed to be having.
What matters isn’t that the food is cooked to perfection, isn’t that your dress is squeaky clean for the entire day, isn’t that the one person you really, really dislike is a guest because you didn’t want to upset your partner; but what IS important is that you are experiencing a day of love and commitment with the love of your life… so focus on that and the fun will keep flowing!
9. (Unrealistic) Expectation Is The Mother Of All F#%@ Ups
This is true for almost everything in life. Expect perfection and you will almost always be disappointed.
So, instead of spending every minute meticulously analyzing the ins and outs of your wedding and what could go wrong and right, relax and take everything as it comes.
Oh! And another top tip:
DON'T become a Groomzilla or Bridezilla... It kills the vibe...