The BRUTAL New Dating Trend You Need To Steer Clear Of

2017-01-29 22:00:11Z
Hayley Mitchelhill-Miller
Hayley Mitchelhill-Miller

A Girl Has No Name... But if you must know I'm Hayley, aka Numpty 'coz I'm a clutz. I'm a Scoopla content producer, actor, martial artist, and you'll often find me binge-watching Netflix with my partner.

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Everyone wants to tell us that there are plenty of fish in the sea. 

Well, sometime that ocean just seems to be full of slimey fish who want to either:

a) slither out of your reach and leave you all alone, or 

b) sharpen their seemingly smooth scales and stab you in the heart... 

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Who said dating was easy?

As if it wasn't already hard enough, there's a dating trend doing the rounds this year and it's full of the one thing we all loathe: rejection. 

It's known as breadcrumbing, and is the 2017 version of brutally 'leading someone on'. 

If it reminds you of Hansel and Gretel being left all alone in the woods because someone ate all their crumbs, it will basically leave you feeling the same way. 

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In simple terms, here's how it works: 

The guy/girl that seems to be the 'catch of the day' tempts you with bits of attention to get you interested. We're talking lil' bits; from a comment here or there on Insta, or a text, and it's always casual. 

They've hooked you and of course your interested, but the interest is only returned in little 'breadcrumbs' of attention and flirtation. You follow the breadcrumbs whenever they drop them and you're always waiting for the next, but they're staying in casual territory only. 

Then these breadcrumbs might lead to a bit of a fling... before they disappear and sim away into the great big ocean... and pop up again a few weeks later to shoot you a text or double-tap your sexy post. 

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Sound familiar? The person who seems interested, but is never available?

It could be your ex who doesn't want you to forget about them, or someone you think you're dating but nothing has ever been fully explained.

They are the fish just out of your reach, slipping in and out of your grasp, and you're left feeling pretty darn manipulated and down-trodden. 

New York Times writer Jessica Bennett described it as, "Breadcrumbers are one step shy of ghosters, who disappear without a trace, but are in more frequent contact than a person giving you the fade. On the hierarchy of digital communication, the breadcrumber is the lowest form."

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If you actually wanna be the best catch of the day, stop leaving breadcrumbs. 

No one wants breadcrumbs. 

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