Nobody ever goes into the pleasure-filled and connection-creating experience that is sex thinking, 'Yep, I want this to be terrible... awful... forgettable'. Even if it turned out to be that, afterwards.
Of course, there probably are a few of you who think 'Let's get this over and done with', which just isn't good for either partner involved in getting it on.
What we all really want is mind-blowingly great love-making, right?
Sure, a quickie from time to time can be thrilling, but we stress the from time to time aspect of that equation. What we want is connection, passion, euphoria and for both of us to get a helluva lot of pleasure out of it...
Which begs the question: what can we do to have that mind-blowingly good feeling?
Well, according to a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine there is a certain equation to getting the maximum pleasure!
What's it involve, you ask?
While the study found that 11-13 minutes of foreplay, proceeded by 7-8 minutes of sex is what we all enjoy - it turns out that we want double that amount of sex.
Sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph. D., reiterated what we all know, that "sex is more than just intercourse."
It's about connection, passion and love.
"The time you allot to it should include the time to generate arousal both mentally and physically."
You CAN'T forget about the magical realm of foreplay!
"The more [foreplay] you engage in... the higher your level of arousal and the closer you get to orgasm.
Sex should definitely last long enough for both partners to achieve mutual pleasure, generally in the form of orgasm."
A lot of people may worry that they're going to take too long or too short of a time to find peak pleasure, but just relax and put everything out of your mind except what you're experiencing with your loved one in that moment.
Some attentive, passionate foreplay + longer sex = MIND-BLOWING results for you both.
So don't go full steam ahead like a bullet train...
It takes two to tango, so make it amazing and magical and NOT all about one person.