Science Says THIS Is The Phrase You Should Never Say When Fighting With Your Partner

2016-07-26 07:16:48Z
Harriet Armstrong
Harriet Armstrong

Harriet is a Digital Content Producer for Scoopla.

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Okay so we have all been there, the frustrations that come when you love someone but also want to rip the hair off their head in the midst of a disgareement. 

But what exactly is the number one world that is in a no-go zone when it comes to arguing with your significant other? According to Psychology Today,expert Jeffrey Bernstein, the word that can launch a thousand screaming fights or escalate a brewing argument is the word... should.

Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda right? Maybe not...

According to Jeffrey, there is real signifcance and power that is associated with the S word;

"We tend to "should" all over our partners, and even if we think we're only doing so in the privacy of our own minds, it can come out in our tone or actions. Thinking "should" about someone you love, or being on the receiving end of a "should," creates negative energy and, over time, can be toxic for any relationship, especially a loving one."

Don't stress though if you are feeling like you are going to be now tongue tied, there is an alternative that Jeffrey suggests will actually help you when trying to reason in argument. 

"Instead of, 'You should know how I feel,' try (thinking and) saying, 'I would like you to please hear me out on this.'
Instead of, 'You shouldn't bring that up,' try (thinking and) saying, 'I would like to consider what you are saying. Please let me sit with it for a little while before I respond.''
Well there you go , it's that simple! 

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