“I Feel Like I’m Wasting My Life By Staying With My Husband”

2016-08-16 04:55:55Z
Harriet Armstrong
Harriet Armstrong

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It’s normal for married couples to go through ups and downs. But at what point do you decide to give up?

A 29-year-old woman has pleaded with the internet for help with her marriage. She posted to Reddit, explaining that she feels like she is wasting her life.

My husband and I have been together 9 years, married 7. We have a 5-year-old.

For the past few years or so, he's been against me really doing much of anything. I stayed home with our child, because financially it was the best choice. When they got a few years older, I wanted to work part time because I was desperate to do anything even mildly productive. He was against it because then his days off work would be totally shot. On his off days, he's off doing whatever he wants (99% of the time it pertains to a hobby of his), so I'm again stuck at home, doing absolutely nothing.

He insists on being a one car family (which I can agree with to an extent, it doesn't make sense to pay double the expenses if I'm not working and don't need a car), but he doesn't even make an effort to carpool, or some other kind of arrangement, so the car can be available to me once in a while and I can do something.

So now I feel like this loser, who sits home all day, every single day, with no car. I haven't seen friends in forever because it's too much work to figure out a day to meet up where I'll have a car and my husband will be off work AND at home to watch our child. My siblings are always meeting up for concerts and dinners, and I've never been to a single one for the same reason.

I'm doing absolutely nothing with my life, all because my husband thinks it makes his life easier, and I'm sick of it.

I've told him it bothers me, and his response is always "well, I don't know what to tell you". I love him, and I don't think I should jump on the divorce ship quite yet, but I am so sick of wasting my life.

Tell me what to do… because I have not a damn clue.

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